I read an article the other day where a woman mentioned that her husband never understood why her anxiety when up after she bought Christmas presents. I understood! Someone gets me! The presents, the planning, the money, the wrapping (ick). OH! And the Advent calendar. Maybe that last one is just me. I heard my daughter yell out one morning that the “magic” had stopped. I did great up until the 4th of December!
How to help the anxiety? Ask for help. Easy peasy. Right…
I don’t ask for help. Do you? I didn’t realize how HAARRDDDD it is to ask for help until a week or so ago. We had a full week and weekend of family events. Boxes of presents stacked high in my office (I don’t even remember what I bought!), business events on the calendar, emails, calls, writing… But ask for help? Ha. No. Way.
I *should be able to do it all. I *should be able to handle this all. I *should… have you ever heard the phrase, don’t “should” all over yourself? That’s what I was doing!
So what did I do instead of ask for help? Became a martyr, picked an argument with my spouse, and cried. Then after all that, said “I need help!”
My husbands response? Is that all? Why didn’t you just ask?
Listen, our partners, friends, and family are not mind-readers. If we need help we have to ask for it! I asked for help again last night and I’m living to tell about it AND I got help! Imagine that?!
What do you need help with? Are you asking for help? Try today – one thing – ask for help and see how it goes!